From a very young age my husband and I have thought that he may be ADHD, but of course the doctors don't like to diagnose it until they get a little bit older and into school. Well, after Kayston had only been in Kindergarten for 3 weeks, (one of which he missed while he was in Idaho) his teacher emailed me and told me that Kayston was having some issues and she wanted to meet with me. I wasn't too surprised considering his bus driver has already had to talk with me twice about him hitting and not staying in his seat. Plus the numerous notes that were sent home to me even when he was in pre-school.
So, I went and met with his teacher and she confirmed what we already knew, that he is ADHD. I mean, how could he not be...I'm ADD and Preston is HD! =) The poor kid never had a chance! =)
So, his teacher and I came up with a reward system to try for a while since he responds well to positive feedback. If that doesn't work, she wants to try out some type of heavy vest that he wears. I've never heard of it before but supposedly it helps kids as a reminder by putting pressure on them or something like that.
I'm just having such a hard time finding the right ways to get through to him. I know I don't want to turn straight to medication, he's only 5 for heavens sake! But so far, nothing else seems to be helping. Yes, the reward system helps but only for a little while. We have tried everything from taking away a favorite toy to time outs to losing privileges...you name it, we've tried it.
We love this little guy more than anything and it hurts us to watch him struggle. He even has a hard time being social with other kids. He gets intimidated easily and will act out or be mean.
The other day he was playing outside while daddy was mowing the lawn and he kept doing stuff that he knows he shouldn't do. He came inside and told me that he was having a hard time being good and that it's hard to be good. I know he wants to be good but he can't figure out how to control his impulses. He lives for the moment and doesn't care about the consequences. It scares me to think that he will have no friends and that school is going to be a constant struggle for him. It was for me and I hated it! And I know how mean kids can be. I was one of them for a while.
Anyway, just thought I'd update you on our situation and if anyone has any tips or advice, we would love to hear it. Thanks!!!
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Hi Keri! I'm finally back on a computer again! I'm sorry to here about Kayston. I don't have any advice, but just know that we'll be praying for Kayston and your family. I read through your other posts - Happy Anniversary! I also love your family photos - they are beautiful! You guys all look so good. Oh, and your Mexico trip looks like it was so much fun! I'm so glad that you were able to have a getaway! Have a great week; we'll be thinking of you!
seeing as I can't even handle my own I don't really have any advice, but I do have a cousin who was having kind of the same problem and they did end up medicating her and it made a huge difference for her, but I'm pretty sure she was older. Also which you probably already know, but another one of my cousins really struggles with it and I know he's always said routine really helps him, I also think that's the same reason my brother enjoys the military. But as with most things there is no one size fits all. I hope you can figure something out that helps him.
ok so i have never personally had to deal with this but my sisiter sarahs little boy who is 6 has ADHD. he was a SERIOUS nightmare for years!! he has been on meds for about a year or 2 and has done SO well on them! if you want to talk to her i am more than happy to give you her number! let me know! stay positive, be CONSISTANT and have EVERYDAY STRUCTURE with EVERYTHING you do. i know that is what the dr tells my sister!
Keri, all I can say is he is super lucky to have two great parents that understand and love him dealry! You guys seem so patient and supportive!!! He will be just fine, because you guys seem to be handling it perfectly. that would be so hard as his mom, I can't even imagine! He seems like a super sweet and silly kid, and since youguys are great at pointing out and remembering all of his wonderful qualities, he will make it through!!!
What! Preston is HD???? No way!
Hang in there guys.
Wow! I'm sorry! That must be so tough. Good luck! You are great parents and I know you'll do the right thing!
Keri, I wish I had some good advice. Being a parent is so hard! Did you ever think it would be this hard?...I didn't. I think Evie is going to be my trial :) I hope you can figure out the best thing for him. Sounds like you are doing great so far. You are welcome to call me if you just need to talk.
He cracks me up. That picture of him speaks a thousand words!
SIGH...I love this boy SO much it makes me cry! He is truly my buddy! You guys are doing a great job and I, too think that Kayston will be fine. I don't think trying meds will hurt him; you have to try everything. At least he knows the difference between good and bad, and right and wrong. That's a huge plus.
Mom's REALLLLLY shouldn't ever say to their kids, "I hope you get a child JUST LIKE YOU!" HUH???
Let me think....maybe it's genetic....does Preston have a hard time controlling HIS impulses?????
I have a friend that gives her son caffeine. She says it calms him down and he can focus. He gets a soda everyday after school before he does his homework. She says that otherwise he can't focus or sit still long enough. Just a thought.
You know...I just think Kayston is so dang cute. I really think he's going to turn out just fine, but there may be a trying period until that time comes. You guys are great parents!
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